No Write Offs

susannelson • February 10, 2012
Matthew 7:3-5
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Our society tends to unfairly label people based on one thing that they said or did. We never let them forget their mistakes. We never forgive them. We may feel justified in feeling that way because that one thing they did was a terrible crime, but that doesn’t make it right. God still cares about that person. It is His will that all should come to repentance, even if that isn’t ours. I think that is why it takes very special people to do prison ministries – people who can look past the deed and see the person that God loves.

Let’s look at a Biblical example. I think that Job’s wife has been given a bad rap. Yes, she was wrong to say to her husband, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” (Job 2:9). But how many people have written her off, left her there in that state of distress and judged her to be an angry, bitter woman – end of story?

Undoubtedly, Job was a man who suffered greatly, ironically because he loved God so much. Satan couldn’t believe that a man could love and serve God under great affliction. He was sure that if Job lost everything he would curse God. God had faith in Job (isn’t that a wonderful thing?!) and allowed Satan to bring the afflictions upon him. We read in chapter 1 that Job first lost all his livestock and most of his servants to thieves and fire. Then all 10 of his children are killed when the house in which they were feasting collapsed under a heavy wind. We try to picture these things happening to us and we can imagine how devastating this would be to Job. We wonder how he could hold up under such painful conditions.

Job 1:20-22
Then Job arose, tore his robe, and shaved his head; and he fell to the ground and worshiped. And he said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, And naked shall I return there. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; Blessed be the name of the Lord.” In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong.

People respond to great tragedy in a number of ways, and some of them are not good. It says that Job did not sin or charge God with wrong. Job didn’t become a drunk. He didn’t start doing drugs. Job didn’t look around for someone to blame. He didn’t take his pain and anger out on others. He didn’t give up and mentally check out of life. What he did was fall to the ground and worship his God. I think that would be hard for most of us to do if we were in a similar situation. Job had an extraordinary relationship with God that is a great example for us to emulate.

Satan didn’t like being wrong, so he wanted to give Job another go. He was sure that if Job was afflicted personally in his body that he would surely curse God. So God allowed Satan to do so, as long as he didn’t take Job’s life. And that’s when Job was afflicted with painful boils from head to toe. He was in terrible misery and was surely repulsive to look at. But not even this physical pain and suffering could turn him away from God.

Job 2:9
Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” In all this Job did not sin with his lips.

Job was not the only person to suffer these situations. There were seven sons and three daughters that were killed, and they had a mother who birthed them, raised them, and loved them. She watched all her earthly wealth be stolen or burned up, and if you don’t think that is significant then you need to talk to someone who has had their home foreclosed or lost it in a fire. She watched her husband suffer great physical pain and torment on top of his emotional pain. Do we not suffer when our spouse or someone else we love suffers?  Can’t we understand why she would be pushed to the point of thinking it was better for him to die than to suffer?  Proverbs 29:11 says: A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back. Job’s wife allowed her feelings to get the better of her and she spoke foolishly.

And that’s where most of us have left her . . . sounding foolish and angry and bitter. In one of my study Bible notes, it ponders the question of why Job’s wife wasn’t taken away from him like his children and property. The writer suggests that she was left behind to add to his suffering! I thought that was a horrible thing to suggest. I know a lot of jokes have been made about marriage relationships (Take my wife . . . PLEASE!). But a wife (or husband) is supposed to be a source of love and comfort, not a thorn in the other’s side.

She was Job’s wife. They had a covenant relationship, joined together by God, and I don’t think Satan could touch that. Job’s wife did make a mistake when she spoke, but her husband rebuked her and corrected her.  Job also had to repent and ask forgiveness for some of his words. (Job 42:6 -- Therefore I abhor myself, And repent in dust and ashes.”) In the end, God restored Job  . . . and his wife.

Job 42:12-17
Now the Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning; for he had fourteen thousand sheep, six thousand camels, one thousand yoke of oxen, and one thousand female donkeys. He also had seven sons and three daughters. And he called the name of the first Jemimah, the name of the second Keziah, and the name of the third Keren-Happuch. In all the land were found no women so beautiful as the daughters of Job; and their father gave them an inheritance among their brothers. After this Job lived one hundred and forty years, and saw his children and grandchildren for four generations. So Job died, old and full of days.

We may have labeled Job’s wife as a hateful woman and written her off. But God remembered her and the covenant relationship between husband and wife. He blessed their marriage with more children, and Job and his wife were not young. Their first 10 children were all grown and living on their own when they were killed. If God was able to forgive Job’s wife and bless her with 10 children, a healthy husband and financial prosperity, who are we to judge her?

As Christians, we are all ministers of the gospel. We are to share the Good News of Jesus Christ with everyone. In our church this year, our Pastor put up board with a tree on it. He told us that God said to write the names of people we wanted to see saved and in church. Everyone rushed to write the names of their family members and friends. Then he told us that God said to add the names of people we didn’t want to come to the church. What?!? That really caused some head scratching. I heard a few people say they wanted everyone to come, and they may have been sincere. But I wonder if we are really honest if we would do it. Would we have written the name of someone like Job’s wife on there? Would we write down the name of the drug dealer down the street? Do we want him to come to our church? What about a person that hurt our feelings, and who we think is bitter and hateful? Do we want her to come to our church? What about the young people with piercings, tattoos and pink hair hanging around on the corner? Do we want them coming to our church?

God is not respecter of persons (Acts 10:34), but unfortunately we tend to be. He does want our friends and loved ones to be saved. But He also wants the drug dealers, the bitter people and those rebellious youth, because they need Him just as much as your loved ones. He wants everyone. We have to be ready to receive them into the Church and be able to love them through God. With God, there are no write offs. When I think about my past and the labels that were placed on me because of the bad choices I made, I am so thankful that God didn’t write me off. Instead He saved me and gave me a new label – a child of the King.

Matthew 7:1-2
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.

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When you reach a certain age or stage in life, I think there is a natural tendency to look back on your life and reflect on how you got to where you are today. It makes you appreciate what you have. I had certainly found myself at that place in life, looking around and seeing how far we had come and how well we were doing. How good it was to feel secure and happy! It had not always been so easy. When we were first married, I was expecting to settle down in the place where I was born, among my own people, and raise a family, just as my mother had done. My husband had something completely different in mind. When he told me we were leaving our home to travel with his uncle to a new land, I was taken aback. Part of me was scared to leave the only place I had ever known, and the other part was caught up in excitement of it all. My husband believed that his uncle was hearing from the one true God, the Creator of the universe, and so he had also put his faith in this God. Because he believed, I believed. I can say that God did see us through on the journey, which was difficult at times. You try traveling with your family, a bunch of farm animals, and herdsmen. Even in the best of conditions, it was sweaty and smelly and exhausting. At one point, there was a famine in the land so bad that we had to travel to another area just to survive. Secretly, I questioned if we had made the wrong decision to leave home. There were many nights I cried myself to sleep. But, God brought us through it and we were able to return to the place God had called his uncle. All the while, God was blessing our family. My husband had acquired flocks and herdsman of his own. Pretty soon, there wasn’t enough room for all of us. Our herdsmen and his uncle’s herdsmen often quarreled. His uncle did not want these troubles to affect the family dynamic, so he suggested that we part ways and gave my husband first choice of which area to take. I was grateful to him for this kindness, and I must admit I was a little sad to leave what had become our family of wanderers. When I saw the beautiful, lush land where we were headed, I knew that the difficult journey had been worth it. We ended up living in the city of Sodom. We had settled in the community as strangers, but over time had built strong relationships with friends and associates. It wasn’t perfect, but what place is? What city doesn’t have crime or a seedier side? You learn what areas to stay out of and who to associate with if you want to stay out of trouble. We found our place there and raised our family. We had a nice home, and my husband was a leader in the community. Our daughters were to be married to fine young men and we had spent the better part of the year preparing them for their weddings. I also had gained the friendship and respect of other women, and we would often talk in the markets about our lives. I was so proud to talk about my husband and the upcoming weddings, and they were generous with their congratulations and well wishes. I couldn’t imagine our lives being any better. Our picture perfect life changed in less than 24 hours when two strangers arrived at the city gates. I guess it was no coincidence that my husband was sitting in the gateway of the city that evening. He invited them to spend the night in our home, which surprised me. I have say that there was something different about them. They weren’t the typical visitors who passed through our area who usually knew what to expect if they spent an evening in the town square, if you know what I mean. I knew our city had a reputation. I had always looked the other way, knowing things happened in the dark of night that were wrong in the eyes of God. I figured it was none of my business and it wasn’t my problem. I lived my life and they lived theirs. The events that happened that night happened so fast. It was surreal. I couldn’t believe it was happening. Our home was suddenly surrounded by men, young and old, who demanded we give our visitors over to them. My husband tried to reason with them. He even had the nerve to offer them our daughters, which really angered me at the time. I was ready to kill him myself. Quickly, the two visitors stepped in and rescued my husband from the crowd. Then the oddest thing happened. The men outside our home were suddenly struck blind and they went away, stumbling about. I was beginning to understand that these visitors of ours were more than they seemed. That’s when they told us they had come to destroy the city and we needed leave as soon as possible. My husband went to our daughter’s fiancés and begged them to come with us, telling them that God was going to destroy the city. They laughed, thinking he was joking. Who jokes about something like that? As the sun was getting ready to rise, the two men urged us to leave right away so that we would not be destroyed, too. It still had not registered with me that this was happening. Everything was quiet and still, so how could we be in imminent danger? How could we just leave? We needed to gather up food and clothing and things we would need to travel. We needed time to get ready. My husband and I just looked at each other, not knowing where to start. Suddenly, I felt a hand grab mine. One of the men had me by the hand and my husband by the other. The second man likewise had taken our daughters hands. They began rushing us out of the city, telling us to run and not look back or we would be swept away in the destruction. What destruction? I did not see or hear anything that made me think we were in danger. They wanted us to go to the mountains, but my husband begged to let us go to a smaller city far enough away from the danger. They agreed and said the destruction would begin as soon as we could get there. We ran for what seemed like forever. I didn’t know my old body could still do that. It still seemed like a bad dream, and that I would wake up soon and be back in my beautiful home. Then I heard the first rumble and felt the earth shake beneath my feet. The smell of smoke and something that smelled like rotten eggs filled my nostrils. I was getting tired from running. My husband and my girls where just ahead of me, entering the city of Zoar. I stopped to rest for a moment and I started to cry. How could we be here in the middle of nowhere, with nothing but the clothes on our back? Why did we have to leave our wonderful home where we had everything we needed? What about all the things we had collected for our daughters’ weddings? Why couldn’t we have saved some of those things. I wanted my life back. Without thinking, I turned around and looked at the city I had called home. Everyone and everything I knew was being pummeled in a rain of fire. As my family safely made it inside the little town of Zoar, I was still just on the outskirts. I stood there in the aftershocks of the fiery storm, grieving the life I had left behind. I realized my mistake too late as I felt the wave of heat and grit begin to take over my body. If only I had listened to the two men. If only I had trusted that God would take care of me in this situation, just as He had in the past. If only I had not looked back. Luke 17:32 - Remember Lot’s wife. If “Jesus wept” is the shortest verse in the Bible (John 11:35), then Luke 17:32 has to be the second shortest. More importantly, these words are in red, meaning Jesus spoke them. “Remember Lot’s wife, “ He cautions. “Lot’s wife” is all we know her by, and what we know about her is found in Genesis 19. Most people just remember that she turned into a pillar of salt. What we need to remember is why. The Hebrew word for “looked back” means more than just the physical act of glancing back over one’s shoulder. It means to regard, consider, or pay attention to something. She was not so much looking back with her eyes as she was with her heart. In that moment, as imagined in the passage above, she had more regard for what she was leaving behind than in the provision God had made ahead of her. She loved and appreciated the things of the world and her earthly treasures more than the divine deliverance that was provided to her. Even though she did not commit the same sins that had brought about this judgment, her heart was with the city and all things worldly, and so she suffered its same fate. In Luke 17, Jesus is cautioning the disciples, and us, to not make the same mistake. Luke 17:26-33 - 26 And as it was in the days of Noah, so it will be also in the days of the Son of Man: 27 They ate, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, and the flood came and destroyed them all. 28 Likewise as it was also in the days of Lot: They ate, they drank, they bought, they sold, they planted, they built; 29 but on the day that Lot went out of Sodom it rained fire and brimstone from heaven and destroyed them all. 30 Even so will it be in the day when the Son of Man is revealed. 31 “In that day, he who is on the housetop, and his goods are in the house, let him not come down to take them away. And likewise the one who is in the field, let him not turn back. 32 Remember Lot’s wife. 33 Whoever seeks to save his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life will preserve it. A quote attributed to Alexander Graham Bell says, “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” Such was the fate of Lot’s wife. Such could be our fate if we are not careful. We cannot harshly judge Lot’s wife, knowing how easily the same thing could happen to us. We can find ourselves living comfortably, confident in our position in life, and relying on our material possessions, if we are not careful to remember the true Provider. It isn’t a bad thing to have material possessions, but it is a wrong attitude if we value the things of the world more than we value the things of God.  When you hear someone say, “Jesus is coming soon”, do you laugh like Lot’s son-in-laws, or do you start looking up and watching for Him? Just like Lot tried to warn his son-in-laws, we need to let our family and friends know that He is coming. As Christians, we should be ready to drop everything when He comes for us, and not look back for anyone or anything. There is nothing we are leaving behind that is better or more important than being with Jesus. When that day comes, just like it came for Sodom, we have to be ready for our divine deliverance from this world. If we dare to look back, we could be left behind. Remember Lot’s wife, and don’t look back.
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